This story isn't just another mixed race couple, it's a gender issue as well. I'm a mix of a Choctaw Indian/Black race & I have my preference of being with a white man in relationships. Even in the gay world, me being/living in a problem also. In baseball I guess I used all my strikes..#1color, #2woman, #3trans(m2f)..so I have to survive, not win. I don't get frowned upon because of my gender as much anymore, because in the straight world I'm just a black woman, & in the gay world I'm even called a freak, which you think would be more accepting, but it's not.
You don't need a dating site, or even a good friend to match make for you to meet the love of your life. We met through volunteering at the same NGO 7 years ago to the month. It was my first interracial relationship, though my partner had being previously married and has two biracial children. I was initially cautious about revealing my relationship to others, fear of what friends and family might say as my home city has, until the last decade, been somewhat slow to welcome others of different backgrounds.
My name is Kerah and I met my husband Ben in 2007 when I moved next door to him. I was a single mother of two children and he was a single father of one child from his previous interracial marriage. We were friends for over a year before we ever went out on a date and 6 years later, we are still going strong. I'd never dated a caucasian man, but wasn't opposed to it. We had a child together in 2009 and married in 2012. We consider ourselves to be the interracial Brady Bunch! I'm African American and Native American and he's caucasian and Jewish.
We met in the fall of 2009 while attending an exhibit opening at a glass art gallery owned by mutual friends. That same night, we discovered that we owned identical cars (after Sarah mistakenly tried her key on Nick’s car). While attending a concert at a cafe later that evening, we discovered that our interests and personalities matched almost as well as our cars! We attended All Hallow’s Eve and Samhain (i.e. Halloween) festivities together the following days, and have been inseparable ever since!
Due to specific cultural mindsets, I had to use various strategies, like religion to persuade certain people to be on my side of the fence when it came to marrying the man of my dreams. Luckily, they came around and we were able to be fully accepted by my family, the most important people to me. Unfortunately however, their community was not as accepting, which honestly means little to nothing to myself. In the past 3 years, we laughed together, fought together, and I never look back to what we had to do to stay together.
James and I have a fairly unique story. James was in the US Army Reserves, and his civilian job was working as a Sergeant at a local county jail. I started working at the jail as a correctional officer March 2005. When I first met him something caught my attention. We started dating that July. Not only were we of different races (him black, and me white), he was almost over 31 years older than me. The differences if anything made us stronger. We were connected on a deep level and were very compatible. Shortly after our wedding on April 7, 2012, James deployed to Kosovo.
My husband and I met through a 1800# dating advertisement on the radio. We had our first date Sept. 17, 1996, bonded immediately, had to many things in common, and it was love at first site on our first date. Dec 1996 three months later we got married on San Antonio River Walk in a very romantic setting, with a few family members and friends. Afterwards we took a carriage ride and to my surprise people applauded our union. Not only did we become husband and wife but we became business partners in the Insurance Industry. We love working together. He is my partner and friend in life.
Our family photo for our church directory, circa 2001.
On a daily basis we don’t consider that we are a mixed race couple or that our children are multiracial people. Honestly I sometimes forget. In the whirlwind of activity that makes up our family home, it’s easy to get lost in just living. As a family we Love, Laugh, Cry, Play, Dance, Eat, Celebrate and Mourn like any other family.
Anthony and I met on a social network. I was simply looking for a friend. At the time of us talking I had a boyfriend but things were rocky between him and I. A few months went by and my ex boyfriend and I broke up. I was completely sad but I felt a little better because I had Anthony there to comfort me. We started talking on the phone and texting a lot more. One thing turned into another and him and I made it official at 3a.m. on October 18,2011. Since we first laid eyes on each other we were inseparable.